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Throughout my life I have repeatedly been the minority and, very often, the obstensibly "less-than" minority: the only child among adults, the only white among blacks, the only white among Asians, the only woman among men, the only part-timer among full-timers, the only homemaker among professional women, the only contract worker on a committee comprised otherwise of all management, the only student on a committee comprised entirely of faculty and administrators, the only lesbian among straights, the only queer among assimilationist gays and lesbians, etc.......
So, we start chatting and, of course, I introduce him to my partner automatically because that's just what I do.
But I would be lying if it I said that it didn't occur to me that doing so might very well be about to cost me several thousand dollars -- not that I wished I had done differently, but just that I recognized the possibility and felt some concern/sadness about it.
Wherever we are in the process of getting to know our sexual natures, we may have feelings or experiences that seem incongruous with our mature selves.
We needn't expect ourselves to know everything today.