Dating women have been abused
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Extensive research exists on the numbers of women who have been raped, and much of the research shows that sexual assault and rape occur in extremely high numbers at colleges and universities.
One recent study suggests that 15 percent of college women are raped in their freshman year of college, and that number would be much higher if it included the more general category of sexual assault (Carey, Durney, Shepardson, and Carey, 2015).
When things began to turn, when the verbal manipulation began, I saw this as the man who I loved changing…and I needed to do whatever it took to fix the problem and make things go back to the way they once were. But anyone that has ever been in an abusive relationship will tell you that right when you think you’ve ‘fixed’ something, your attempts aren’t good enough anymore. And, by the time you realize this is the cycle, you’ve already given up so many things in your own life that you feel like you’re trapped. If you stay, you’ll eventually get to the point where he’s happy. It’s one that tries to love unconditionally and doesn’t assume others will meet their expectations.
So I devoted my free time to ‘fixing’ the issues because then I wouldn’t have to eat my words. He can’t really expect the world from you…so you just have to reach his expectation. It’s one that assumed that a man who treated me so well was only suffering from something else. Maybe if his dad didn’t expect so much of his time at the office. Maybe if he could find a medication that would actually help with his ADD.
He was everything that was missing from every relationship I’d ever been in. And recordings of our classes are really valuable for those who do not have time to take the live classes or just want to review. We have active communities of like-minded individuals working to change the world on important issues.
When you first learn about her trauma Especially with dating, most women who have been raped will not disclose this part of their history until they know and trust a man well.
(Yes, rape occurs in homosexual female and homosexual male couples, too, but that is a complex topic that deserves its own article.) If you are in a position where a woman discloses that she has been raped, it can be overwhelming and even scary to hear. Men in this situation often feel anxious and uncomfortable, unsure of what to say but feeling pressure to say the "right" thing.
The women I have worked with clinically who have been raped report that one of the most difficult parts of the experience is the legacy it leaves in terms of trusting men, even a man with whom the woman may already be in a relationship.
Among single women, surviving rape makes dating — and sex with future sexual partners — an often harrowing and always stressful experience.